After years of being married, things may not stay the same. With the
growing marital responsibilities, couples may find the intimacy level in
their marriage fading and this should serve as a warning to look at the
marriage as a whole because lack of intimacy can ruin a
marriage. Relationship is not something that will just last a lifetime
on its own as years go by, couples should work hard to make the
relationship last. If your marriage is getting dull and less passionate,
the following tips can be very helpful to maintain intimacy in your marriage.
Change your mind-set. Couples especially those who are already
parents have this mind-set that married people already know each other
very well and they do not need to go to real dinner dates, see movies
together and do stuffs that only couples on the “getting to know” stage
usually do. Many couples find themselves in the “comfort zone” stage
that their relationship becomes more like a friendship than a marriage.
They become so comfortable with each other that the romance and intimacy
are all in the past which is not a good thing. Lack of romance and
intimacy in a marriage can make the relationship less exciting. If this
is happening in your marriage, you have to change your mind-set and you
have to do something to maintain intimacy in your marriage. Dating is
one of the best ways to keep the romance and intimacy in your marriage
alive. Set date nights or a get away vacation once in a while to spend
time alone together.
Be realistic. Marital responsibilities may prevent you to have
regular dates with each other especially if you have children. Do not
make a big deal out of it if every night cannot be a date night. Be
realistic to avoid fights and arguments, a once or twice a week date
should be enough. Being realistic that you cannot date whenever you want
does not mean that romance and intimacy have to take a back seat. You
can be romantic and intimate with each other even at home. For
instance, you can hug and kiss your spouse while she is doing the
dishes. You can cook for your spouse to enjoy a romantic dinner later
after sending the kids to bed. Give your husband a quick kiss while he
is doing errands at home. These things can make your marriage more
exciting and you can maintain intimacy in your marriage while attending
to your individual responsibilities at home.
Words of love and appreciation. Aside from romantic gestures, your
spouse needs to hear how much you appreciate him or her. Words of love
and appreciation are very important if you want to maintain intimacy in
your marriage. Your wife will feel closer and passionate with you if you
usually let her hear that you appreciate and love her looks, her dress,
her hair, her body, her gentleness, her kindness, her cooking and
everything about her. Your husband will feel sexier if you will let him
hear how you find him really sexy and irresistible, how you love his
touch and how you appreciate his thoughtfulness. Actions may speak
louder than words but we still need to hear those words of love and
appreciation from our spouse.
Be open-minded. Is the lovemaking in your marriage still full of
excitement? Do you satisfy each other in bed? A satisfying sex life is
important in a marriage. Lovemaking is not just a sexual act but it is a
medium where couples connect with each other physically and
emotionally. To maintain intimacy in your marriage, lovemaking must be
satisfying. Be open-minded to talk about sex with your spouse and how
you can improve your sex life. Do you have sexual fantasies that you
want to be fulfilled? Experimenting in the bedroom can be a great way to
maintain intimacy in your marriage, it is best to talk about it with
your spouse and be open-minded about it.
Lack of intimacy can result to marital problems like infidelity but
this can be prevented. There are various ways to maintain intimacy in
your marriage but you have to commit to work hard for your marriage to
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