You can spend all the time you want on your looks, book reservations
at the perfect restaurant or find the best bar in the area, and make all
of the money you want, but when it comes to charming a woman, it all
comes down to the conversation. Which is why it’s so frustrating when
certain conversations seem to go nowhere, only ending up with large
moments of awkward silence before the two of you go your separate ways.
The problem is that you are focusing on the wrong topics of
conversation. Luckily, it’s an easy fix.
By utilizing the following conversation topics, you’ll be able to
attract women by turning good conversations into great conversations.
1. When you were kids…
No matter how old you are, your childhood will always hold a special
place in your heart. By opening yourself up and letting the woman know
what kind of circumstances you come from, you’ll not only show her your
emotional side, but also give her a chance to relate. By opening up the
floor for conversation topics about childhood, she will have her own
experiences she will want to talk about, allowing her to shoulder a lot
of the conversation itself.
2. What you’re passionate about…
This is the easiest topic to use for two reasons. First, it allows
the woman to (once again) see your emotional side, something that will
only help win her over. Second, it gives you a chance to talk about
something you actually enjoy talking about! This will make the
conversation float easily, taking the weight off of it. In the same way,
after talking about your own passions, steer the conversation in the
direction of hers, asking her a lot of questions about what she enjoys
doing. Later on when she thinks about the conversation she had with you,
she’ll remember it being a lot of fun because she was talking about
what she loves.
3. The people surrounding you…
Since this is a woman you’ve spent very little time with, you don’t
have a lot of common experiences from which to draw from … except the
current experience you’re having. Form a bond with her by discussing
your surroundings, whether it be the type of bar you’re currently in,
the food in the restaurant, or the people surrounding you. One thing I
love doing whenever I’m talking with a woman is making up back stories
for the various strangers surrounding us. This puts us in a
collaborative mood and allows me to flex my creative side.
4. Her ambitions…
While talking about your current job and your past is all well and
good, women put a lot of stock into where the man is going. But even
more important than that is getting her to speak about her own
future ambitions. This will, once again, steer the conversation in her
direction, letting her talk about herself. Also, it will boost the
emotional state of the conversation, since no one can talk about their
own ambitions without getting a little bit excited about them.
5. Her travels
Travel is always a fun topic, but this is a part where it’s best to
step back and let her talk. While the places you’ve traveled could be
great, and you could have so many stories from your various adventures,
too many of those and it looks like you’re trying too hard to impress
her. Instead, start the topic off about travel and then start inquiring
about her own stories. This will showcase her various passions, desires,
world views, etc. which you can call back later on in the conversation.
6. Your life lessons
While this isn’t necessarily a “topic”, it’s important to shade all
of your conversations by asking yourself this question: What lesson has
this taught you? By having this depth in every topic of conversation,
you are not only showcasing the depth of your own thought (again,
something women enjoy finding in men), but also once again spreading the
branches of the conversation tree as far as they can go. Instead of
just talking about this fight you got into in 5th grade (one
topic) you can talk about your various feelings that were going through
your mind at the time and the lessons you’ve learned from the fight
(many topics). From there, the conversation will expand on its own.
7. Your thoughts on pop culture / current events
If worse comes to worse, use any thoughts you have on pop culture or
current events to keep the conversation from falling into any awkward
silences. However, don’t use this conversation topic too often or else
you will come off as boring and with no depth.
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