NEWS FLASH: Does climbing Mt. Everest seem easier compared to
achieving greater self-confidence? Perhaps you feel that being a
bolder, more attractive version of yourself is too much of a tall order.
Are you one of those women who turn into a NERVOUS wreck when meeting
a cute guy for the first time? Worse, do you feel like you should be a
totally different person or stuff down all wonderful the aspects of
your personality?
If that’s the case, then you need to break out of this harmful train
of thought. The things you want to be are already inside you, but
you’ll need a healthy amount of self-confidence for others to see it!
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When you think about the dating scene, what do you believe are the
necessary “selling points” you need to get a guy’s attention? It seems
like some girls know something others don’t.
A lot of women end up scratching their heads thinking, “How does SHE
do it? It’s as if she does practically nothing but she’s NEVER short on
dates!”
Well, the real trick to connecting with quality guys is by putting
yourself on EQUAL footing with them. After all, the kind of man you
want needs to be on the same page as you are, so let’s go through three
quick tips:
#1: Look after yourself
You may think that this is about being a flawless specimen of beauty or wallowing in vanity.
NOT at all.
What I’m stressing here is that you need to let everyone know you
care enough to look your best. And that’s not the same as physical
perfection… guys just need to cotton on to the fact that you’re always
on top of your looks.
The men that we squeal in delight over are considerate enough to look
as good as they do. Even if he isn’t without a few flaws here and
there, you KNOW that he’s got it together.
Thus, we ladies should be game enough to make ourselves just as
presentable as they are. Would you date someone that had no regard for
hygiene? Any guy who’s let go of himself would lower his chances of
finding a partner � that certainly applies to us as well!
Now, what details should we be concerned about? First of all, being
fresh and clean is paramount. You may have an awesome personality, but
you can help others see all of that by being in a PRESENTABLE package.
This is where regular showers and other daily habits such as
flossing, brushing your teeth and shaving come in. Why should we let
cleanliness be an issue that’ll get in the way of meeting gorgeous men?
Try putting on a nice feminine fragrance that distinctly defines
you. Get beautified by spritzing on a light perfume that isn’t
overpowering but pleasant enough to have guys at the first whiff!
Also, don’t be shy with lotions (like vanilla or other similarly
enticing scents) to keep you looking AND feeling smooth. There’s
nothing like a feminine appearance of delicate softness to appeal to a
guy’s masculine sensibilities!
This same approach goes with your sense of style. Don’t be afraid to try on outfits that amplify your womanly attributes.
Looking good doesn’t have to mean baring too much. A tasteful outfit
should bring out your feminine essence, expose just ENOUGH skin, and
accentuate your curves. If you need help with this, employ the help of
the people in your life who have a knack for style and fashion.
They’ll be able to recommend dresses, tops and blouses that will keep
you classy and sensual at the same time. The most elegant wardrobes
allow a HINT of skin in the right places… any guy with the tiniest bit
of imagination will be intrigued enough to take notice!
I’m sure you know at least one woman who happens to have fabulous
hair that suits her perfectly. You don’t have to imitate her style;
instead ask her where she gets her hair done so the same salon can fine
tune your own set of locks.
Everyone is different, so consulting with a stylist will help narrow
down a customized appearance that complements your frame and
personality. Whether your hairstyle is straight, wavy or curly, the
important thing is that it’s clean, lustrous and fully expresses your
unique identity!
Of course, FITNESS has a lot to do with being a girl who has it
together. You don’t need a perfect body mass index, but it does matter
that you are making an EFFORT in this regard.
As busy girls, we have a load of excuses to keep us from working out
regularly. However, if we recognize its importance in the general scope
of dating (or your health for that matter), we can ALWAYS find time to
work on ourselves, one way or another.
As for other matters, a dentist, dermatologist and other specialists
who offer the kind assistance you need (be it your teeth, skin, etc) to
really help polish the overall package. Investing in their services is a
necessary factor to letting everyone know you’re looking after
yourself.
Generally, the sum of your beautifying efforts weighs a lot more than
your imperfections. What girl doesn’t have something they don’t like
about themselves?
But it doesn’t matter since guys are willing to gloss over these
infinitesimal details if they know you’re the kind of girl who doesn’t
neglect herself.
In a parallel universe, we could look into each other’s inner beauty
and that would be enough. However, the way we present ourselves still
matters when it comes to making a memorable first impression!
#2: Have yourself to rely on
Neediness in an emotional and material sense is one of the biggest
roadblocks to greater attractiveness. Sure, guys may get the occasional
kick out of being your knight in shining armor, but for the most part
you’ll need to let them know you can live without their brute strength.
In many relationships, the balance of power is so lopsided against a
woman’s favor that it allows bad stuff to seep in, such being taken for
granted. If a guy knows you can live WITHOUT him, he’ll naturally treat
you better and it will breed MUTUAL respect.
It’s a human tendency to VALUE something you could lose at any given
moment, right? But of course I don’t recommend that you flaunt this
fact in anyone’s face or use it as a way for a guy to submit to your
whims.
I’m simply asking all the ladies out there to project a sense of
independence. Guys absolutely LOVE it when they can’t have a 100% hold
on a girl… you have no idea what self-sufficiency can do to their
“hunting” instincts.
Men are in it for the thrill of the chase, and knowing that he can’t
“tame” you is plenty of fuel for his masculine drive to conquer, pursue
and achieve. Tapping into this wellspring (using your independent
personality) is a great way to get a lot of dates!
# 3: Get a life!
I hope you don’t take this the wrong way because all of us obviously
*have* lives. It’s just that sometimes, pursuing a relationship – or
having one – can obscure the importance of having a WELL-BALANCED life.
Even if we are talking about improving your dating life, remember
that you have a LOT of other things to be passionate about. And this
kind of attitude is what makes a woman more attractive and dateable in a
guy’s eyes.
When you’re dedicated to improving yourself as a whole person, it
just makes you more interesting and compelling to know. Jumping into a
relationship just so you can have one isn’t the right away to go about
dating.
For your dating life to flourish, it needs a good, sturdy ground to
stand on, namely a happening life filled with stuff you care about and
ACTIVELY go after.
For instance, a guy is more likely to be riveted by a girl who has
weekly brunches with her family, regularly attends a fitness class and
excels at her chosen career. Furthermore, this interesting woman may
also have a bunch of other hobbies that open her up to opportunities to
meet other similarly appealing people!
If you simply lived out the other parts of your life EQUALLY, chances
are that this lucky guy will be dying to be part of your awesome life!
And the great thing about this is that you aren’t actively seeking a
man’s validation or approval; living as a driven woman NATURALLY does
that for you.
So my advice for you is to get involved in the other things that
interest you ASIDE from cute guys. In the end, we have ourselves to
look after anyway � regardless of whether we’re single or not.
All in all, the way you treat yourself is a like a big, fat neon sign
that tells the world how they should treat YOU. That’s why the way we
handle ourselves – be it in terms of looks, self-sufficiency or
lifestyle – is a reflection of what kind of women we are.
And when you send the right kind of message to guys out there, you
can be sure that these quality men are going to pick up on your signal!
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