The Key to Keeping Him Insanely Addicted (Sinful But Works!)

 

These days, many women admittedly find that they can no longer keep a man’s attention. Even more shocking, is the fact that many women find they struggle to keep a man’s attention for even 5 minutes, EVEN if she’s known him for years.

We’ve reached the shockingly defining moment in our era, where many women have easily experienced a guy who would have an amazing night with them, and tell them just how great they were…. only to never call back after.

Gone are the days where men spent weeks, months, and even years chasing down a woman, or trying to get her attention.

Instead, we find, almost comically, that women instead have taken over the role of the chasers, in a desperate bid to garner even just a tiny amount of affection. And of course nobody could blame a woman for practically hunting down and clamping onto a man in this day and age, where the average attention span of an adult has now reached a mere 3 seconds.

To put it bluntly….a goldfish has a longer attention span now, than the average modern man.
But we can’t exactly blame the guys either. You have to keep in mind the fact that they are constantly being bombarded with ads, and images, and peer pressure to move onto the next bigger or better thing.

There’s even constant pressure, now more than ever even for women too,  to be 5 lbs lighter, have teeth just two shades whiter, dress just a little bit better, style your hair just a little bit more fuller…. The list goes on and on and never seems to end.

It can be extremely frustrating, especially when this reality takes over your love life, with men who also appear to be looking for the next best thing, and with guys who can’t seem to stay on the same page for too long, especially when it comes to love.

It’s at this point that something has to give…. or change. Obviously you can’t continue attempting relationship after relationship with a guy who runs around like a zebra from a lion in his love life.

And obviously you can’t constantly be forced to feel like you’re never going to be loved the way you need, and deserve from a man, because love is in such short supply.

But this, obviously, is where a very easy and quick solution comes in, because the problem you are facing….the one where you struggle to get a man to love you whole heartedly, is a problem that can be easily fixed.

The key is to use the Moving Target Method.
By now, if you’ve read this far, you’ve been having a little ‘aha’ kind of moment going on in your head, and even if not, you’re about to, because there’s one simple fact that I’ve already revealed to you that will play an important role moving forward.
What fact is that?

The fact that men struggle to keep their attention on one thing for very long.

But the secret key to this fact, that you must remember is this:
Men actually ONLY STRUGGLE to keep their attention on you, ONLY IF there’s not enough motivation.

So what does that mean exactly?
It means this: if you can create enough interest, or enough motivation inside a man…. He’ll become drawn to you like bees to honey.

Thus, the key to truly igniting a man’s passion toward you, or igniting any true emotional reaction from a man is to know exactly how to keep his attention sustained indefinitely on you.

Knowing how to do that is as simple as understanding a man’s core motivations.
By now you’ve probably noticed that many men of the modern era don’t like to settle down for too long. They might go on a date with a woman, and even have a great time- but still be out the next night, looking again for something new or exciting.

And even married men are guilty of ‘replacing’ their wives with other hobbies or activities that get their interest, almost reducing their women to an invisible entity.

So the key is that men CAN and WILL become almost laser focused toward something, as long as they feel motivated. Thus learning why they become motivated is your ultimate key to truly capturing his heart.

So what motivates men then? What makes them tick? How do you get a man excited toward you more permanently?

Ultimately, men become motivated when they are challenged, or when something presents itself as a CONTINUOUSLY EMOTIONALLY REWARDING reality for him.
To best explain this, think about the most stereotypical hobbies that men have. Things like fast paced cars speeding down a road, action packed movies, and intensely graphic video games might come to mind.

What could possibly motivate a man to want to see that, be a part of it, or be taking part in that over and over again?

Well the answer is in how it makes him feel.
Fast paced cars, and explosive action packed movie sequences all have one very simple thing in common…. Its adrenaline inducing. It’s got a thrill to it. There’s an emotional buildup happening each and every time a man takes part in something like that.

It’s that emotional buildup that men are craving, and become addicted to – and they will easily and willingly partake in any activity that they feel will reward them in this exact way.
Men can easily feel this buildup around women, but the problem is that most women don’t know how to sustain that buildup.

Simply put; most women actually don’t know how to keep a man emotionally wound up over long periods of time, and thus men move on looking for the next thing that will do that for them.

Now before you go blaming men for being so damn weird about their emotions, and before you go thinking “well why do I have to do all the work all the time…why is it always my job”… there’s one thing you must understand about men, that will make this a lot easier for you in the future.

Men don’t get the same feeling, like you do, from connecting with people through talking, and sharing their emotions.

You feel better when you are close to someone, sharing your deepest secrets… men however, actually feel weird doing that.

That is, unless, you can prove to them that it’s emotionally rewarding, and that a buildup of positive intense emotions is going to take place.

So, the key is to learn how to create the buildup, and the Moving Target Method of course, will show you how to do that.

So how does The Moving Target Method it work?
Well there’s two simple steps:

Step #1: Shower Him With Attention For A Short Period.

Step #2: Cut Off The Attention.
This may sound extremely simple, but keep in mind your goal is to create the emotional buildup, to get the explosive reaction of intense attraction you are seeking.

Without the buildup, what will happen is this:
You’ll shower him with attention. He’ll enjoy it. But then he’ll grow bored, and wonder “what’s next”.

You end up stuck on level 1, when you intended to be moving along with this man to level 12.
So the key to getting a man to BECOME insanely addicted is to give him a little piece of the pie, but to challenge him to work for the rest.
Rinse and repeat, and repeat again.

Think of it like nourishment. Can you survive for the next 50 years, on one apple?
Heck no.
Would you want to just have one apple for the next 50 years either?
No.

Even if you could…. WOULD you?
No.

It works the same way here. You build up the tension and desire by giving him a little bit of something he’s already interested in…. which is you.

Men DO want to have a woman’s attention and time, but they just can’t connect with it, if it comes too easily.

Men want to feel like they’re earning it, which is exactly what step #2 accomplishes, by removing his rights and forcing him to push and pull for the right to have you back.

That’s not to say that you have to go so crazy with this technique that he doesn’t feel like anything would work, but it’s rather to say that doing this in little ways each day is the ultimate key. Just like a man does on his own, when you watch him.

He thrill seeks in little ways each day to feel emotionally satisfied.

The key, therefore, to keeping him hooked in the long run is to do exactly that: give him little bursts of pushes and pulls…. become the “Moving Target”.

You see something very interesting happens when you understand the buildup process, and when you become a moving target for him. You create a chase, and this chase creates an intense attraction buildup inside of a man.

This happens because first you confuse him, thus creating anticipation of the unexpected, and secondly, because you don’t allow him to take you for granted.

He’s not certain if you’re running away, and any minute he feels like this might be a loss, it’s no longer a positive emotional experience for him to allow you to leave. So instead, he’ll see it as rewarding to work to get your attention back.

And thus you form a circle of attraction, wherein he rewards you, and you reward him accordingly as you move forward or backward according to his reactions, moving like a Yin and Yang.

The key now, is to know how to implement the Moving Target technique.
You do this by using the right set of attention grabbing hooks and pulls, and by carefully releasing those hooks to keep him coming back for more.

But now the big question is, How do you implement the Moving Target technique to have a man feel intensely attracted to you, and have that attraction only build and become stronger over time?

Answering the “how” is actually surprisingly simple, but you want to be careful in knowing just what to say and do to get his attention on you intensely enough to create this reaction to begin with.

Thankfully there’s a very easy explanation, which will show you exactly how to amplify his attraction toward you, to create the perfect tension buildup between you and a man.
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Have you ever worked with, or have friends who just seem programmed to be at ease with themselves.but are drop-dead gorgeous at the same time? Has it blown your mind to think how EFFORTLESS it is for some women to be themselves while attracting men left and right??
Are they just blessed with dumb luck, or are they onto something you’re not?

Let’s tackle a few basic traits that generate surefire attraction with the opposite sex:

# 1: Treat yourself like a prize, and he’ll follow suit
An irresistible woman knows that she’s worthy enough of a man’s time, affection, and most of all, RESPECT. She never seeks out a man because she feels like a relationship will save her.

In fact, her life is so complete that she doesn’t need a guy to fix her or make her whole. A sassy woman is perfectly fine being single for the moment because she knows that Mr. Right will come along in due time.

There isn’t any need to go into a panic or lower your standards just to make room for a guy who won’t treat you the way you should be. More importantly, you don’t try attracting a man out of DESPERATION, because that isn’t exactly an endearing quality.

It’s absolutely essential to be a self-referenced woman who doesn’t seek a man out of social pressure. She allows a man into her life because he makes her happy and adds to her personal growth.

Her relationship doesn’t define her life, but rather enriches it. The problem with a lot of women is that they often date a man for the former reason and not the latter.
As a result, they’ll act needy and clingy because they’re deathly afraid of being alone, even if it means lowering their standards and putting up with any guy that comes along.

Acting out of FEAR is never the basis for a healthy, long-term relationship.

Simply put, self-respect is done by placing value on yourself, and that in turn will prompt a quality man to treat you in the same manner. Otherwise, an attractive woman has no problems showing him the door and moving on with her life.

# 2: Just say “NO” to mind games
The folly of manipulating a guy is that whatever happiness you’ll get out of toying with his mind will be SHORT-LIVED. Once you’ve dealt him your best cards and he’s given up chasing after you, then there won’t be much reason to stick around.

So don’t bother adhering to a bunch of stupid rules. There’s plenty of harmful advice floating out there which are usually created out of specific experiences that don’t apply to everyone. You might hear that you should NEVER kiss on a first date, or that you must go to bed with him on the third one.

Please, these so-called rules are made by bitter and jaded people who want to protect themselves from getting burned again. Following these will only result in game-playing, and that is just another word for “manipulation”.

As I’ve just said, deception has no place in a healthy relationship, and anything based on a lie is bound to crumble in the future. That’s why it’s more important to be a balanced woman instead. That means no playing “hard to get”, nor should you present him with absolutely no challenge at all.

An attractive woman is who she is partly because she knows how to strike the middle ground: she doesn’t mess with a man’s head, but neither is she easily won over.

# 3: Get your head out of the clouds
You know, a lot of relationship problems are caused by having unrealistic standards. When you get caught up in fantasizing about IMPOSSIBLE stereotypes, you’re keeping quality men out of your life.

That’s because NONE of them will be able to measure up to the ideal (read: ridiculously perfect) man living inside that fantasy world of yours! Seriously, you should learn to temper your expectations with a sense of practicality.

In a parallel universe, all of the men you’ll meet have big arms, ripped abs, stunning chiseled looks, and inexhaustible wealth. You might think that meeting ALL of those qualities are the ticket to a great relationship, but it’s so much more than that.

Ask yourself: will I be able to have a happy relationship if my man didn’t have (insert trait here)? If so, then you can either make your standards more realistic or cross out that specific item completely.
If not, then keep it on your list and move on to your other standards.

Pare down your list and stick to the essentials. In twenty years from now, will a flawless physique still be important, as opposed to emotional maturity, faithfulness, or honesty? Think about that for a while.

You’re not living in a movie here – this is the real world you’re in. Don’t wait around for a valiant knight to come barging in and rescue you from the drudge of your daily life.
You’ll have to do that for yourself. That takes us to the next irresistible trait, which is to.

#4: Derive fulfillment and satisfaction from your life, not a relationship
While a sassy woman will make room for a worthy man in her life, she’s not about to turn her schedule upside-down just to accommodate his preferences. She has the guts to go on living the way she was before they met.

It’s very important not to lose focus on the other aspects of your life when you get into a relationship. As we’ve discussed, your life should revolve around what works best for YOU.

Always have your priorities sorted and don’t develop the habit of dropping everything else just for him. While it’s ok to occasionally move things around for your guy, always leave time for yourself as well adequate room for personal growth.

That’s the problem with a lot of women – once a guy steps into the picture, everything goes haywire. They forget their family and friends, slack off at work and basically drop off the face of the Earth.
That’s not a healthy way to live your life. Rather, a relationship should enhance the quality of your life and INSPIRE you to do even better.

Going back to what I mentioned before, whether or not you have a boyfriend at the moment shouldn’t affect the big picture. Balance your priorities by keeping him in the loop but not to the point where he’s already disrupting your daily existence.

Referring again to our middle-ground metaphor, learn to go out of your way when appropriate but at the same time, avoid appearing too scarce. Don’t hide from him on purpose just to see how far he’ll chase after you.

You’re better off getting a dog if you’re into that sort of thing. Remember what I told you about playing games!

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How To Be The Girl That Guys Want To Date

NEWS FLASH: Does climbing Mt. Everest seem easier compared to achieving greater self-confidence?  Perhaps you feel that being a bolder, more attractive version of yourself is too much of a tall order.

Are you one of those women who turn into a NERVOUS wreck when meeting a cute guy for the first time?  Worse, do you feel like you should be a totally different person or stuff down all wonderful the aspects of your personality?

If that’s the case, then you need to break out of this harmful train of thought.  The things you want to be are already inside you, but you’ll need a healthy amount of self-confidence for others to see it!
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When you think about the dating scene, what do you believe are the necessary “selling points” you need to get a guy’s attention?  It seems like some girls know something others don’t.

A lot of women end up scratching their heads thinking, “How does SHE do it?  It’s as if she does practically nothing but she’s NEVER short on dates!”

Well, the real trick to connecting with quality guys is by putting yourself on EQUAL footing with them.  After all, the kind of man you want needs to be on the same page as you are, so let’s go through three quick tips:

#1: Look after yourself
You may think that this is about being a flawless specimen of beauty or wallowing in vanity.
NOT at all.

What I’m stressing here is that you need to let everyone know you care enough to look your best.  And that’s not the same as physical perfection… guys just need to cotton on to the fact that you’re always on top of your looks.

The men that we squeal in delight over are considerate enough to look as good as they do.  Even if he isn’t without a few flaws here and there, you KNOW that he’s got it together.

Thus, we ladies should be game enough to make ourselves just as presentable as they are.  Would you date someone that had no regard for hygiene?  Any guy who’s let go of himself would lower his chances of finding a partner � that certainly applies to us as well!

Now, what details should we be concerned about?  First of all, being fresh and clean is paramount.  You may have an awesome personality, but you can help others see all of that by being in a PRESENTABLE package.

This is where regular showers and other daily habits such as flossing, brushing your teeth and shaving come in.  Why should we let cleanliness be an issue that’ll get in the way of meeting gorgeous men?

Try putting on a nice feminine fragrance that distinctly defines you.  Get beautified by spritzing on a light perfume that isn’t overpowering but pleasant enough to have guys at the first whiff!

Also, don’t be shy with lotions (like vanilla or other similarly enticing scents) to keep you looking AND feeling smooth.  There’s nothing like a feminine appearance of delicate softness to appeal to a guy’s masculine sensibilities!

This same approach goes with your sense of style.  Don’t be afraid to try on outfits that amplify your womanly attributes.

Looking good doesn’t have to mean baring too much.  A tasteful outfit should bring out your feminine essence, expose just ENOUGH skin, and accentuate your curves.  If you need help with this, employ the help of the people in your life who have a knack for style and fashion.

They’ll be able to recommend dresses, tops and blouses that will keep you classy and sensual at the same time.  The most elegant wardrobes allow a HINT of skin in the right places… any guy with the tiniest bit of imagination will be intrigued enough to take notice!

I’m sure you know at least one woman who happens to have fabulous hair that suits her perfectly.  You don’t have to imitate her style; instead ask her where she gets her hair done so the same salon can fine tune your own set of locks.

Everyone is different, so consulting with a stylist will help narrow down a customized appearance that complements your frame and personality.  Whether your hairstyle is straight, wavy or curly, the important thing is that it’s clean, lustrous and fully expresses your unique identity!

Of course, FITNESS has a lot to do with being a girl who has it together.  You don’t need a perfect body mass index, but it does matter that you are making an EFFORT in this regard.

As busy girls, we have a load of excuses to keep us from working out regularly.  However, if we recognize its importance in the general scope of dating (or your health for that matter), we can ALWAYS find time to work on ourselves, one way or another.

As for other matters, a dentist, dermatologist and other specialists who offer the kind assistance you need (be it your teeth, skin, etc) to really help polish the overall package.  Investing in their services is a necessary factor to letting everyone know you’re looking after yourself.

Generally, the sum of your beautifying efforts weighs a lot more than your imperfections.  What girl doesn’t have something they don’t like about themselves?

But it doesn’t matter since guys are willing to gloss over these infinitesimal details if they know you’re the kind of girl who doesn’t neglect herself.

In a parallel universe, we could look into each other’s inner beauty and that would be enough. However, the way we present ourselves still matters when it comes to making a memorable first impression!

#2: Have yourself to rely on
Neediness in an emotional and material sense is one of the biggest roadblocks to greater attractiveness.  Sure, guys may get the occasional kick out of being your knight in shining armor, but for the most part you’ll need to let them know you can live without their brute strength.

In many relationships, the balance of power is so lopsided against a woman’s favor that it allows bad stuff to seep in, such being taken for granted.  If a guy knows you can live WITHOUT him, he’ll naturally treat you better and it will breed MUTUAL respect.

It’s a human tendency to VALUE something you could lose at any given moment, right?  But of course I don’t recommend that you flaunt this fact in anyone’s face or use it as a way for a guy to submit to your whims.

I’m simply asking all the ladies out there to project a sense of independence.  Guys absolutely LOVE it when they can’t have a 100% hold on a girl… you have no idea what self-sufficiency can do to their “hunting” instincts.

Men are in it for the thrill of the chase, and knowing that he can’t “tame” you is plenty of fuel for his masculine drive to conquer, pursue and achieve.  Tapping into this wellspring (using your independent personality) is a great way to get a lot of dates!

# 3:  Get a life!
I hope you don’t take this the wrong way because all of us obviously *have* lives.  It’s just that sometimes, pursuing a relationship – or having one – can obscure the importance of having a WELL-BALANCED life.

Even if we are talking about improving your dating life, remember that you have a LOT of other things to be passionate about.  And this kind of attitude is what makes a woman more attractive and dateable in a guy’s eyes.

When you’re dedicated to improving yourself as a whole person, it just makes you more interesting and compelling to know.  Jumping into a relationship just so you can have one isn’t the right away to go about dating.

For your dating life to flourish, it needs a good, sturdy ground to stand on, namely a happening life filled with stuff you care about and ACTIVELY go after.

For instance, a guy is more likely to be riveted by a girl who has weekly brunches with her family, regularly attends a fitness class and excels at her chosen career.  Furthermore, this interesting woman may also have a bunch of other hobbies that open her up to opportunities to meet other similarly appealing people!

If you simply lived out the other parts of your life EQUALLY, chances are that this lucky guy will be dying to be part of your awesome life!

And the great thing about this is that you aren’t actively seeking a man’s validation or approval; living as a driven woman NATURALLY does that for you.

So my advice for you is to get involved in the other things that interest you ASIDE from cute guys.  In the end, we have ourselves to look after anyway � regardless of whether we’re single or not.

All in all, the way you treat yourself is a like a big, fat neon sign that tells the world how they should treat YOU.  That’s why the way we handle ourselves – be it in terms of looks, self-sufficiency or lifestyle – is a reflection of what kind of women we are.

And when you send the right kind of message to guys out there, you can be sure that these quality men are going to pick up on your signal!
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How To Make A Good First Impression With Men

How would YOU like to give EVERYONE you meet – friends, colleagues, potential boyfriends – a first impression they’ll never forget?

Wouldn’t it be great to naturally win just about anyone over because of your awesome personality?  Well, don’t pay any mind to your inner naysayer… these qualities are already in you, and NOW is the best time to bring them out!

This plain truth eludes a lot of women because it’s one of those “right-under-your-nose” kind of things.  Well, it’s high time you played up the best version of yourself and share it with the rest of the world!

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For the meantime however, I’d like to give you some pointers on how to jumpstart the inner transformation process TODAY.

Like I said, wouldn’t it be just peachy to leave folks no choice BUT to really dig you?  The thing about making a great first impression is that those who are good at it DON’T put too much thought about it.

They don’t think… they just DO.  In my experience, the single greatest obstacle to pulling this off is getting lost in your own head and trying to size up the situation too much.

You know what I mean: shutting out the person you’re talking to (along with the rest of the world) as your brain works overtime to second-guess everything you do!
“Did I laugh too loud?”
“Is there something in my teeth”
“Was I talking too fast?”
“Sheesh, my joke sure sounded lame!”
“I seem too eager… good luck hearing from him again!”

These kinds of thoughts are POISON to your attractiveness.  Being deathly afraid of being less than perfect is going to make you TENSE.

And as you know, TENSE equals UNATTRACTIVE.
So, to put it succinctly: RELAX.

Don’t let your nagging thoughts and doubts cloud your thinking.  Even if your emotions seem like chaos, you can “fake it ’til you make it”, as some like to say.

Let me clarify what that means: it ISN’T about putting up a PHONY personality that doesn’t really speak of who you really are.  On the contrary, it’s a matter of *temporarily* putting up a semblance of being calm and collected.

Nothing more, nothing less.
At first, acting cool as a cucumber may feel like putting on a new set of clothes that feels stiff and awkward at first.  However, this feeling will go away the longer you “wear” this attitude of confidence.

In the meantime, you’ll just have to put up with this new feeling so that your anxiety won’t get it the way of others seeing the REAL YOU.

In due time, you’ll eventually outgrow it and being relaxed WILL become a natural part of you!
But I’m getting ahead of myself here.  What are the things you should do to make people feel you’re relaxed and in control?

First of all, your body’s subtle visual cues will tip them off on what you’re feeling.  Body language goes a long way in generating the aura you’re aiming for.

So, what you can do is discreetly OBSERVE your confident friends or other people you’re often with.  Do you notice how laid-back their posture is?

Maybe you’ll see the way their feet are apart at just the right distance.  Not too close, but not too far.  There’s something about standing in a way that says you’re not about to apologize for the space you’re occupying…
…but at the same time, NOT being smug about it.

A good way to exude confidence is by standing slightly on one leg with your back propped up just enough to avoid slouching.  At the same time, you don’t want to be too upright like a solider either!

Also, resist the temptation to give away your nervous energy by fiddling with the straw in your drink or that handbag you may have on you.  You’ll need a place to tuck away those restless hands, but keeping your arms crossed isn’t a good idea (as it�s a very UNWELCOMING gesture!).

Instead, simply rest your hands on a stationary spot. If you’re sitting for instance, one hand could be resting on the table (if you’re sitting) while your other palm is flat your knee.
Feel free to mix and match the placing of your digits as long as they’ll serve to make you look like at ease.

Next on your to-do list: make proper eye contact.
My general rule of thumb here is to look away and occasionally make quick, casual glances at your conversational partner as you speak.  Then, hold a more consistent gaze when it’s their turn to talk.

This is a great way to make a connection because being able to visually communicate with someone ensures that there’s a healthy amount of rapport going on.  This aspect of self-confidence is often glossed over since some folks don�t realize how vital this is.

In general, this style of eye contact is flattering as your gaze implicitly tells them you’re listening to them.  Giving someone your attention in this manner is a subtle way to express interest and joy to be in their company.

As women, we’re fortunate that prolonged eye-to-eye communication is well-received received by men AND fellow girls.  When we make eye contact, it’s generally perceived as a friendly gesture, so you can use this to your advantage!

When you think about it, looking away too much while a person is talking might send the wrong message.  It could look like you’re bored to tears… or worse, that their company isn’t good enough for your undivided attention!

Similarly, not making brief moments of eye contact while speaking suggests you’re ashamed or unsure of what you’re saying.  Visually reconnecting every now and then during your turn to speak implies confidence in your thoughts and opinions.

The last component of today’s first impression skill set is the ability to SMILE.  Sometimes, we get so caught up in looking so confident that our facial muscles have forgotten to follow suit!

That’s ok – we’ve all gone through times when our preoccupied minds have distracted us from expressing confidence with a smile.  Like the other basic things, it’s easy to overlook this simple but powerful gesture.

Now, it doesn’t have to be the ear-to-ear kind of grin that would make Jack Nicholson proud.  Again, you have to appear relaxed so your smile should reflect this attitude.

However, you also don’t want to do it the way salesmen do.  It’s the kind of smile that seems like a rigid, unreal mask that can be taken off as quickly as it was put on.

You know what I mean, right?  They’re smiling just because they HAVE to, and not from the pleasure of hanging out with you.

The type of smile you’ll need is the kind that GROWS on you during the course of the conversation.  Why?  It just seems more natural, relaxed, and NOT forced at all.

It’s an unspoken sign, but the message that the right smile gets across is worth a WHOLE conversation in itself.  So remember to ease up on the trigger, so to speak.

In fact, there’s a powerful effect to be found in not smiling much when meeting someone for the first time.  This allows you to create a connection by SLOWLY flashing those pearly whites after they’ve said something to “EARN” it.

Trust me, creating such an experience for that lucky person is quite meaningful – even if their CONSCIOUS mind doesn’t acknowledge it.

As I told you earlier, you have a better chance of people warming up to you when they feel that their presence has made you feel better.  So what I’m really saying is that your smile is a reflection of that JOY within you.

Hardly rocket science, right?  I’m telling you, this first impression stuff isn’t some great mystery that needs solving!

All the things we’ve covered today add up to a basic goal, which is to knock their socks off right from the GET-GO.

The first encounter is your best window of opportunity to permanently etch the kind of impression you want to make on someone.

The great thing about it all is that you have the means to make this happen, and having enough PRACTICE is what it boils down to.

You may know the basics now, but you don’t study confidence, you DO it.  Only then can you truly embody the irresistible woman that’s lurking within.

Therefore, I’d like you to try out these things in the REAL WORLD where you’ll truly LEARN what works and what doesn’t.  As I’ve talked about in the past, mingling with folks isn’t a matter of life or death.

Once you wrap your mind around the truth that you have virtually infinite chances to hone your people person skills, the pressure just melts right OFF.

So don’t sweat having to practice your awesome first impression-generating skills on the unsuspecting public!  Just go about your day as normal, and when the next person is poised to have little chat with you, have at it!
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Flirting With Men – How To Do It

Sometimes, the best opportunity to be better at attracting men is lying right under our noses. 

Everyday, life is full of little chances that will help us become more of a “people person”, which of course leads to GREATER irresistibility!

Even the most mundane of situations present a way for you to become better at conversing with folks of all shapes and sizes (along with quality men!).  Starting today, all you need to do is keep an eye out for chances to develop your conversational skills and self-confidence in general.

Understandably, women who haven’t developed the habit of getting there and mingling with other people won’t be used to kicking off a great conversation.  In other words, the thought of chatting with strangers is unappealing to these girls … or even downright SCARY.

All it really takes are the right ideas which will help enforce the habit of chatting up all sorts of folks.  So for today, THIS is exactly what we’re going discover.

Of course, if you would like the shortcut to your seduction success, you can check out Meet Your Sweet “Get A Guy Guide:”

Now, I’d like to familiarize you with the most basic aspects of being a friendlier, more approachable version of yourself in order to make men (and other folks in general) naturally responsive to you.
This is where the importance of FLIRTING comes in.

You might think that flirting is about making raunchy innuendo.  Perhaps your idea of being a good flirt has to do with lacing your conversation with sexual implications and the like.

Well, this is actually just a misconception that’s given the fine art of flirting a bad rap these days.  The funny truth is that you can flirt with just about any stranger out there, whether he’s a guy OR a girl!

Before you get all confused with my last statement, let me clear up what flirting is all about.  It’s the ability to elicit GOOD FEELINGS within a person, regardless of gender.

Basically, the point of flirting is a basic desire to spread feel-good vibes among the people that you meet WITHOUT wanting anything in return (like a date or romantic attention!).

Although your intentions for flirting are to simply have fun with everyone, the ironic twist is that you’ll also happen to attract guys in the process!

When you come across as a lady who has a natural tendency to make EVERYONE around her FEEL GREAT, then that’s what good flirting is all about!

If you’re able to associate your presence with positive emotions, it would make sense for people to want to be around you.   With that said, how does a girl go about working on her flirtation skills?

#1:  Pay them a compliment

Before you start handing out words of praise like they were going out of style tomorrow, you need to have a CLEAR idea of what this is all about.

Like what I said about sincerity earlier, you want to make people feel good about themselves with no ulterior motive.  Anyone would be turned off by someone who was obviously just sucking up to him or her.

It’s easy to feel this way if the person got a whiff of phoniness from a compliment.  For instance, people can tell if you’re firing off a flattering remark with NO THOUGHT at all… whereas EARNESTLY observing something important to the person and praising it accordingly will deeply resonate within him or her!

Although this seems like a doozy to pull off, it’s actually not as hard as it sounds.  A smart girl like you just needs to put her powers of observation to good use!

As I mentioned at the start of this newsletter, all you have to do is look out for things “hidden” in plain sight.  Greater AWARENESS is vital in situations like these, so keep your eyes peeled for things to compliment people on!

The next time you run into someone with whom you can talk to for a bit, try your hand at making him/her feel good with some well-placed words of praise.

Don’t feel like they have to like you because of it, what’s important is that you simply felt like saying something nice for the heck of it.  No more, no less!

For instance, if that new guy sitting next to your cubicle at work has a cool screensaver from the movie “Avatar” on his monitor, make a brief but meaningful comment if the situation allows it.

Saying something like “Hey, that’s a sweet screensaver… I guess you like the movie even more than I did!”

This is a great way to establish some RAPPORT and VALIDATE his personal interests.
Pretty soon, you might be adding more fuel to the fire by saying “I love how the film gave the expression -walking in someone else’s shoes- a new meaning!”

And who knows, it may serve as a starting point for a longer conversation!  In this example, all you wanted to do was to take notice of something you HONESTLY liked and gave him props for it.

Sometimes, taking the initiative to pay a sincere compliment goes a long way!

#2: Keep it light, keep it fun!
Now that we’ve established that flirting is meant to make others feel good, you also need to know about another important guideline.  You can’t generate those things within someone if you don’t feel good about yourself to begin with!

Anyone with an infectiously pleasant personality knows that having that a positive attitude begets the same vibe from the people around them.  That’s why you need to be “in the zone” when you’re mingling with the folks you run into.

You have to remember that your level of energy must be just as high (if not higher) than the person you’re talking to.  Otherwise, your flirting efforts will be a lost cause.

But that doesn’t mean you have to transform into a hyperactive version of yourself… you just have to go by a few important pointers to make sure that you’re always in top form!

For instance, thinking too much is one of the biggest positive attitude-killers that will keep you from being at your most flirtatious.  Some women have a tendency to let the inner chatter in their heads DISTRACT them.

I’m sure anyone at some point in their social lives has made the mistake of trying TOO HARD to sound witty or clever.  The end result of this habit is that you end up thinking of what to say next without bothering to LISTEN to the person in front of you.

Why pressure yourself and act like your life depended on it?  It doesn’t work that way!
This line of thinking defeats the very purpose of flirting, which is to establish rapport by being playful, relaxed and fun-loving.  Driving yourself mad with thoughts like “I hope this guy likes me” will only keep you from giving him your full attention (which is a very ATTRACTIVE thing to do!).

So do yourself a favor and just keep your ears peeled to the conversation.  That’s the best way to keep the fun going!

Let me give you an example.  Pretend that the guy you’re talking to just told you about a great experience he had camping out with his buddies by the lake over the weekend.

Maybe he mentioned that he got a kick out of momentarily leaving his hectic city life behind and relaxing in the wilderness.  Paying ATTENTION to a key point such as this would then allow you to share some of your own thoughts to complement his.

Then you can say something in a similar train of thought: “Wow, that sounds like a lot of fun!  You know, sometimes I need a little peace and quiet myself when the week gets crazy… so every now and then I do my own thing by chilling out at home, turn up my Zen music and curl up with a good book!”

Bingo!  Not only did you indirectly praise his interests, you’ve also created some excellent common ground between you two!

And you weren’t even trying to impress him by topping his story; all you really did was to take something he finds important and give it right back at him!

To recap: DON’T psych yourself out by thinking that a failed attempt at flirting is going to be the death of you!

Relax into the moment and keep a cool head about yourself.  What should a sassy girl like you be afraid of anyway?

Flirting is a playful way of testing the waters with a guy.  A lighthearted verbal exchange is meant to let you know if your personalities are going to mesh well.

If not, it’s certainly NOT any great loss on your part so there’s nothing to be freaked out about!
As far as the big picture is concerned, taking these little hiccups in stride by staying POSITIVE is actually an attractive trait to have.  More importantly, the motivation for flirting is to simply share your joy for living with others!

And that’s a lot easier to do than wanting people to like you.  Go for an impression that tells people, “I’m having FUN talking with you” instead of something off-putting like “Won’t you please like me?”

If you want to keep the things fun, DON’T let your mind wander into thoughts about the OUTCOME of your conversation.

What happens AFTER the conversation is irrelevant.  The important thing is that you’re living IN THE MOMENT, totally focused on the person you’re chatting with.

Did he laugh at your jokes?  Great!  Did he give you the cold shoulder?  Great!

See, it doesn’t matter because this doesn’t have any bearing on who you are as a woman.  The great thing about these experiences is that you LEARN from your accomplishments (or mistakes) every time!

So the next time you head out of the house, don’t forget to ditch the negative self-talk and leave your unreasonably harsh inner critic at the door!

The general idea is to open up to the rest of humanity out there and welcome the chances that come your way.

The broad spectrum of your cheerful personality is going affect everyone around you:  your family, friends, colleagues and of course, the potential Mr. Right’s waiting to meet you!
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Overcoming Myths About Men

Have you ever found yourself making the same mistake over and over simply because you didn’t know any better at the time?

We’re all human – from time to time we unintentionally make the occasional blunder due to a bunch of mistaken assumptions running in the back of our mind.

These false beliefs keep us blissfully unaware that our ill-informed decisions will actually lead us to disaster!

And you know what? This isn’t a bad thing in itself because learning from our mistakes adds to our body of knowledge. However, wouldn’t you want to AVOID making these boo-boos if you COULD?

This is why you need to UNLEARN any incorrect notions that could cloud your better judgment.
Sometimes, it just takes another pair of eyes to identify the mindsets that could drive you towards perfectly preventable mistakes.

How many times have you gotten into a situation that yielded bad results because you had the wrong ideas in mind?

Certain perceptions of men can mess up your chances of having a great relationship with them. When we assume given things about the opposite sex, your actions could PREVENT the relationship from going in a healthy direction.

Thus, let’s take a look at a couple of the most common myths about men which you need to steer clear of:

#1: Guys are into “low maintenance” women.
Actually, this wouldn’t be a problem if the term “low maintenance” wasn’t misconstrued in the first place. Oftentimes, when some misguided women hear this adjective, they equate it to having no opinion of their own and being a complete PUSHOVER.

This attitude reminds me of the 1950’s housewife archetype often portrayed in TV sitcoms of the same era.

You know what I’m talking about: Sugary-sweet on the outside, but brimming with unspoken emotions on the inside.

She’s the one who’s afraid to mess up a perfectly good relationship by speaking up too much. This is the kind of girl who has regrettably shut off her ability to express her feelings in a healthy way.

Sadly, this glaring misconception is unconsciously driving many women to behave in a very NEEDY way. In the back of their minds, they take the idea of being low-maintenance to such an EXTREME that they’ve become a mere shadow of their former selves.

Being “low maintenance” in the truest sense of the word is defined by REALISTIC qualities.
This is a well-adjusted, reasonable person who doesn’t throw a fit when her partner unwittingly makes the occasional offhand remark.

(And I emphasize “OCCASIONAL”, as opposed to “habitually”, but anyway…)
This is also the kind of girl who can properly manage her feelings MOST of the time and keeps emotional meltdowns to a reasonable minimum. When it comes to mood swings, low maintenance women don’t often have these and only under the most stressful of circumstances.

All in all, this is an ideal picture of what low maintenance is all about.
Therefore, it’s NOT about being so laid-back to the point where you’re frazzled and out of breath from trying to please a guy’s every whim… …or even TOLERATE selfishness.

And being low maintenance is definitely a far cry from transforming into a disturbingly submissive version of yourself.

Remember, there’s a difference between a cool girl that doesn’t get upset over the little things… …and the emotional SLAVE who doesn’t have any purpose aside from sacrificing her dignity and independence in the name of “love”

The mentality you should have is that a relationship is NOT the only thing you have going for you.
If you would make a map of your life right now, would you say it’s dominated by huge chunks of land exclusively reserved for a boyfriend?

Or does this map have equally allocated areas meant for your family, friends, career and hobbies?
Even though we’re always talking about how to get into a good, healthy relationship, you have to understand that this is only ONE PART of your multi-faceted self.

The SUM of your pursuits in life defines who you are.
If you build your universe around whether you’re single or not, your resulting actions will create a very unattractive impression of neediness.

You wouldn’t want anyone to believe that having a boyfriend is the ONLY thing that motivates you in life, right? You know you’re TOO GOOD to act like that.

Don’t get me wrong – it’s WONDERFUL to have a partner who adores and respects you. That crazy rush you feel when you fall in love can greatly inspire you do great things in the other areas of your life.

However, my point is that you should still retain a good sense of PERSPECTIVE when you *do* get into a relationship. What that means is that you’d be just as fine even if you didn’t have a boyfriend at the moment.

Your life was just as fine before you met him, and you can certainly leave if you’re not being treated the way you should be.

Of course, I don’t mean this in an arrogant way nor am I suggesting that our partners should be the pushovers instead!
All I'm saying is that you shouldn’t be scared to leave the comfort zone of your relationship if it isn’t helping your personal growth.

Also, in no way should you cover up your true feelings by waiving your right to SPEAK UP if you need to (i.e. when the terms are unfavorable).

A good relationship is always a TWO-WAY street, so don’t let the low-maintenance myth (or rather, misconception) tell you otherwise.

#2: Falling in Love is Eternal Bliss Guaranteed
The other common trap women fall into is the assumption that those butterfly-in-the-stomach feelings you first get when you meet someone will remain CONSTANT in the relationship.

However, this just isn’t going to happen. Even happily married couples who’ve been together for decades know that their initial infatuation for each other evolved into a deeper and more MATURE sense of loving.

This kind of love goes beyond the initial rush that all new couples go through. This is the love that’s weathered countless emotional storms, power struggles and other CHALLENGES.

The end result is a rock-solid relationship that doesn’t constantly require you to feel the heart-quickening rush found in infatuation.

But there’s no reason to panic over this fact of life. You shouldn’t be afraid of outgrowing this primary stage in your relationship since better things are headed your way.

Over time, the falling in love stage will eventually be replaced by something more powerful in the long run. It’s just that you’re going to go through a series of trials as a couple before you get there.

Don’t buy into the myth that loving your guy as you do now will be enough to get you through the years. Remember that neither of you are perfect; somewhere along the way, your “little” differences are going to catch up to you.

(I’ve heard of couples breaking up over their brand of toothpaste, but hopefully your own relationship won’t go to that extreme!)

I’ll be honest with you here: you’re going to FIGHT tooth and nail over things like this, and you’re going to wake up and smell the coffee sooner or later. But power struggles are NORMAL after the familiarity settles in.

If you can accept the reality that love will inevitably undergo a transformation over time, then you’ll have no reason to worry about the growing pains in your relationship.

Otherwise, insisting that everything will run smoothly or take care of itself will BLIND you to speed
bumps in the future.

Of course, I’m not saying you shouldn’t enjoy the moment because being HAPPY is the point of having a relationship, right?

You just have to be aware that things will change eventually. However, you can stay happy as long as you’re cool with having to deal with the reality check phase in due time.
(No need to worry your pretty little self about stuff UNTIL you have to!)

All in all, finding happiness in a man’s arms is best done by keeping a REALISTIC perspective no matter how head over heels you may feel at a given moment.

There are a lot of impractical beliefs and notions that we women are unnecessarily exposed to in these modern times. Like it or not, picking up unrealistic perceptions of love and dating is just a TV show or DVD rental away.

In this confusing sea of misinformation, a sassy girl definitely needs to keep her wits afloat!

For the most part, whatever we read in books or see onscreen are distilled versions of life at best. It doesn’t necessarily reflect what happens in REAL situations!

So we can’t project unrealistic fantasies onto real life and NOT expect to run into problems!

The real world naturally includes the complexities of human behavior. You need to keep this in mind when considering what men want from us and what we should expect from them.
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This article comes to you courtesy of Meet Your Sweet
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet’s Get a Guy Guide.
If you want genuine men, and not just any man, let Mirabelle Summers and the team challenge your beliefs about love and attraction, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
Get A Guy Guide
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How to Talk To Men- Conversation Tips Women Should Know

Everybody has sticking points, whether it’s work, relationships or life in general. But that’s fine and dandy because the learning process is what makes us better women.

Perhaps you’re struggling with certain behaviors or fears that might be keeping you from making the most out of your love life. Not to worry though; author Mirabelle Summers has created the ultimate game-free guide on how to do just THAT:

The “Get A Great Guy Guide” is just the thing you need to achieve the breakthrough that you’ve been waiting for. With its sensible, no-nonsense and down-to-earth advice for the sassy, modern girl, finding AND holding on to a quality man will be a cinch!

Now then – one of the most common stumbling blocks to more romance in a woman’s life is a simple lack of conversational know-now. The good news is that this can be LEARNED and immediately applied in your everyday life!

Especially while you’re face-to-face with a potential lover!

Oftentimes the problem is that some well-meaning girls overlook the importance of having the right communication style. It’s not that they WANT to be boring; they’re merely unaware of how to hold a conversation.

No sensible gal is going to get up in the morning and tell herself, “I wonder how I’m gonna BORE the socks off of that cute stranger I’m going run into at the coffee shop today?”

If you want to become a better conversationalist, it’s important to consider if you’ve grown accustomed to certain patterns of speech that are actually counterproductive. Sometimes, you need to step back and ask if you’ve fallen into certain habits which you’ve numbed yourself to over time.

So the first step towards any form of improvement is SELF-AWARENESS. Think about the way you normally carry a conversation with a guy and ask yourself if your style could use some polishing.

Of course, I don’t want you to start beating yourself up if you feel that the way you talk to men isn’t as attractive as you might want it to be. Like I said earlier, there’s always room for improvement, and it’s definitely a good thing to know EXACTLY which areas can be improved.

With that said, I want you to go over the following tip you can use to enhance your communication style:

# 1: Rapport is Key
It may sound like the simplest thing in the world to say, but the fact is lots of perfectly adorable women have a hard time doing this.

It’s mainly because they only have a VAGUE idea of what rapport is, so naturally you can’t create something you can’t really put a pin on!

So let’s clear up the fog surrounding this topic and identify what it is exactly. In a nutshell, having rapport is about having a CONNECTION with someone.

You know how you hook up your iPod or mobile phone to your computer, and they suddenly have this mutual understanding? It’s kind of like that, but on a DEEPER level.

Let me give you a clearer picture: if you were at a party packed with all manner of gorgeous, articulate and friendly men, which one of them are you likely to REALLY fall for?

Since they’re all visually and mentally appealing, you might have a hard time figuring out which guy suits you. Chances are the one who naturally understands you will be the man you’d want to date.

Why is that? Well, doesn’t it feel just GREAT when a person instinctively senses where you’re coming from?

I’m sure you’ve met at least one person in your life who you inexplicably feel drawn to. That’s because that person seems to perfectly understand and echo back your own opinions or feelings.

That sense of being connected is what rapport is all about. Fortunately, it’s actually not hard at all to do this in your daily conversations.

The first thing to keep in mind is that you need to be on the ‘same page’ as the person you’re talking to. There are easy ways to do this.

For example, keep an ear out for specific concepts or values that are personally close to the person you’re in a conversation with. If he brings up that it’s important to him to have some quiet time everyday, store that away for future reference.

Later on you can echo back that same concept by telling him about how YOU like to spend your alone time: “At the end of the day I like to spend an hour or so curling up with a good book and a nice warm cup of chamomile tea. It really helps decompress after a crazy day, you know what I mean?”

Step back and watch his eyes light up like a Christmas tree! By taking something close to his heart and giving it back to him in a genuine way, your words will make quite the IMPACT on him.

So, rapport really has to do a lot with speaking the same ‘language’. Now of course, I don’t mean you have to start mimicking everything he’s saying like a little parrot, but rather do it in an EMOTIONAL sense.

Discovering and talking about the values that resonate with you BOTH is a way to speak the same language.

When you think about it, we often adapt our modes of speech depending on the context we’re in.
For example, you wouldn’t talk to your friends, family, colleagues, or elders in the same EXACT way would you?

So don’t think that you’re being a phony by making an effort to speak in the same way that he does. You’re simply getting into the practice of communicating in a way that’s APPROPRIATE to the situation.

And when it comes to chatting up gorgeous guys, a meeting of the minds is best done through rapport-building speech patterns!

# 2: Switch Off Your Brain
Don’t get me wrong, the kinds of guys who are worth your time are into women of SUBSTANCE. And certainly, this next conversational tip is not about acting air-headed or ditzy.

All I’m advising you do is keep your sexy brain from going into overdrive! A common mistake that intelligent women often commit is to think too much about certain things.

They get so caught up in their own world of thoughts that they’ll come off as aloof or distracted, when in reality they’re just petrified from FEAR of not knowing what to say next.

If you don’t want your brain from stalling on you, then you have to quiet your thoughts and shut out the nagging distractions in your pretty little noggin.

The attraction-killing thoughts I’m talking about are those coming from the inner critic trying to sabotage your conversation. Sometimes, we make the mistake of mentally scolding ourselves after saying something that felt out of place or unfunny.

Other times, we’re lost in a maze of thoughts on what to say next or get bogged down in a swamp of self-consciousness.

When you feel your brain going in this direction, acknowledge what’s going on and DROP these mental distractions.

There’s a handy little trick you can do in case your attention is drifting off to la-la land: instead of obsessing about how you look in his eyes or what he might be thinking, simply divert your attention to HIM.

It’s a girl’s best defense against looking aloof or detached from the conversation (or from this plane of reality for that matter!). So remember to shut off this part of your brain, and you’ll do just fine.

On another note however, sometimes it’s the guy you’re talking to that’s feeling self-conscious. If that’s the case, then don’t act or talk in any way that might give away you’re AWARE of it.

Just play it cool and don’t dwell on the vibe he’s giving off. It’ll only make things more awkward if you let his state affect your own.

# 3: Humor is Your Best Friend

Maybe you’re still feeling each other out and you’re trying to get a handle on how to connect to this hunk of a guy. But the awkward flow of your conversation is creating a major interference in your connection so you're having a hard time ‘broadcasting’ your signal.

Fear not, friend! The quickest way to clear up all that ‘static’ is by creating a private joke which you can share with him. When you both have some knee-slapping ground to start on, this accelerates the rapport-building process.

My long-time friend Marcus has a great story to illustrate my point. He says:

“One of my first jobs was a freelance product writer for all sorts of health merchandise. During one assignment I was talking with this guy who was telling me about the benefits of a sports bracelet that supposedly reduces muscular fatigue. I had to put on the bracelet and pretended how less tense my arm felt as I was stretching it. Monique, his pretty sales assistant, was visibly chuckling at how funny

I looked during the product demo (though she tried her best to hide it).”

Marcus was then able to use this funny incident as an inside joke when he started chatting up Monqiue. To her delight, he referred to the silly arm-stretching debacle several times during their conversation.

To his benefit, Monique was game enough to tease him about it when they eventually started dating. The moral of the story here is that when used properly, humor serves as a great bridge between two people.

Heck, any doctor knows about the therapeutic effect of laughter. One way to bring on the charm is to put your man on a natural high by cracking a joke or making a witty comment!

Making people laugh will make people (cute guys included) want to be around you to get a dose of your feel-good charisma.

Of course, there’s a big difference between laughing at a joke and MAKING one. However, appearing to be effortless at humor isn’t as hard as you might think.

Don’t assume you need to transform yourself into a standup comic at the drop of a hat.
Generally, a good punch line is the result of properly setting up the joke beforehand. If you need to explain the punch line after delivering it, it means you didn’t build enough suspense first.
(Think about how some characters on TV bumble a perfectly good joke by explaining too much and adding a “get it, get it?” at the end.)

A good way to build up a joke is by keeping a relatively straight face and suppressing any snickers before dropping the punch line on him. Otherwise there won’t be any escalation.

That’s what comedic timing is all about: buttering up the audience and then BAM, you get the drop on them with a well-placed punch line!

Notice how comedians like Conan O’Brien or Tina Fey churn out the funnies. They like to talk about a mundane news item (the set-up) and then making a zany comment about it (the payoff).

As an aside, avoid making any pop culture references that might alienate or confuse the person you’re talking to. It’s good to be mindful of the particular person in front of you so he can better relate to your “material”.

However, don’t worry about making leaps and bounds in this particular area of conversation. Try adapting these habits of humor little by little into your speech.

Once you hit your stride and finally struck a guy’s funny bone, you’ll notice how easier it is to keep him laughing with a follow-up joke!

One last way to be funny without overdoing it is by doing the “pretend seriousness” routine. A little lighthearted irony goes a long way with certain folks!

Let’s pretend that your friend introduced you to this incredibly cute guy who happens to be just into music as you are. So halfway through the conversation he confesses to not having heard about a certain band you absolutely adore.

Take advantage of this opportunity by *playfully* retorting, “Tell me you’re kidding. Otherwise, I’m gonna have to drag you to my place and make you listen to my (name of band) records until you see the light. Seriously!”

Admittedly, this approach might not work on everyone, but if he seems like the guy who’s game enough to go along with the fun, then give it a shot!

#4: Converse With an OPEN Ear
Some women might think that listening is just a simple matter of hearing what the other person is telling them. Truth is, this basic skill we’ve been taught to use over the years is often taken for granted.

Sometimes, we find ourselves zoning out a bit (refer to tip # 2) when we should be PAY ATTENTION in the full sense of the verb. A typical mistake is to listen on a superficial level and merely use the time the guy is talking to think of something to say.

This might sound like common sense, but I have this to share: you’d have a better chance of saying something worthwhile if you truly listened to what the other person just said.

I’ve told countless friends and colleagues that your genuine attention is a very powerful tool for conversational success! Really listening to his jokes and stories is a simple but effective way to make him feel good about himself.

And what red-blooded man wouldn’t want to be around a sassy girl that he can associate his GOOD FEELINGS with?

The gift of showing real interest is the direct path to greater rapport in ANY sort of conversation you’re in. Although our general interest here is to attract men through a good chat, we also have to consider the big picture here.

An attractive woman is someone who can have a great conversation with just about anybody. When you have a POSITIVE attitude towards the rest of humankind, it’s an indication of how you’d be on a date.
…or as a girlfriend.

If you’re there to talk with ANYONE purely for the pleasure of their company… and NOT because you want their approval… then that sincerity will naturally show.
People (hunks included) just tend you like more when you want to hang out with them with NO strings attached.

So what I’m saying here is that you shouldn’t just limit your awesome conversational skills to men alone. Find an opportunity to flex your social muscles and chat up a storm with the next person you run into!

It doesn’t matter if it’s the nice old lady at the library, the friendly cashier at your favorite coffee place, or your fellow students at yoga class. Every person out there offers a chance for you to become a more sociable person.

Trust me, this mindset is the sure-fire path to becoming drop-dead gorgeous in the long run! What have you got to lose after all?

And part of developing the right mindset is by expanding your knowledge and beliefs about dating, courtesy of Meet Your Sweet’s “Get a Great Guy Guide.”

When you think about it, the cost of failure is pretty much ZERO, so get out there and work it!
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If you want genuine men, and not just any man, let Mirabelle Summers and the team challenge your beliefs about love and attraction, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.

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Dating A Man 10 Years Younger- What You Should Know

Meeting and attracting a much younger guy (someone a decade or more younger) when you are in your late 40s or early 50s can be flattering. Your friends may find it amazing and may push you to go for it but it can be really disturbing in reality. Dating a man 10 years younger brings a different high and excitement but it comes with some challenges too. May-December romance has its pros and cons.

The Pros

Younger men most likely listen and take your advice. Being older, you are perceived as the more experienced, mature and well-rounded person so your younger man tend to listen more and accept your advice. Younger men find it easier to talk to older women about anything. They believe that older women are more adept and can handle multiple responsibilities like career, relationships, children and finances which makes them reliable to listen to.  Younger men are willing to listen and learn. Dating a man 10 years younger can be refreshing because it is nice to have someone who appreciates your value.

Dating a man 10 years younger can make you feel young. Younger men can definitely make older women feel prettier, more attractive and young. Younger men are more energetic, full of life and  adventurous. There are older women who says that they became more energetic and adventurous being with younger guys.

Sexual compatibility. Most young men prefer having sex with older women because they have more experience and sure of what they want. If women and men hit their sexual primes at different age, younger men are more likely sexually compatible with much older women. Middle aged or older women tend to have higher sex drive which corresponds to the stamina and high sex drive of younger men. Sex can be better when dating a man 10 years younger.

You don’t have to worry about his baggage. Younger men usually haven’t had much heartaches so they carry less emotional baggage. You also don’t have to deal with previous marriages or kids because a younger man is more likely very single and never been married.

The Cons

Younger men lacks experience. While you already have a solid career and financially stable, a younger man is still sorting out his life path and doesn’t have much life experience, doesn’t have a stable career and not yet  financially stable. It can be a good thing at first with all the excitement and romance but once reality sets in, you’ll realize as time went on that dating a man 10 years younger can be really challenging. It can be tiring to be the wise grown-up and be his lover, his aunt, his mother, his mentor and his teacher.

Relationship with a younger man may not be for keeps. Younger guys can be immature and not ready for something serious. Commitment can be an issue for younger men as they are not into something serious yet. Younger men may not be ready to settle down because he is still young, immature and want to explore many things first while older women are very much ready to settle down. They may also have immature friends that you have to deal with.

Difference in lifestyle. You were already in college while he was in grade school. You may not understand his lifestyle and he may not understand yours as you both grew up in different decades. The difference can be exciting at first but you may not see each other eye-to-eye eventually as you do not share the same things and experiences growing up.

You’ll be regarded as a cougar and get teased often. No relationship is easy but dating a man 10 years younger is more difficult when you are being teased and called names. While men can enjoy May-December romances, society is not that generous with older women involved with much younger men. Although the perception about older women dating younger men is now slowly changing, there is still a social stigma that society still perceived older women as predator of younger men. They can be really cruel calling you names. People may make fun of you and viewed you as desperate for dating a man 10 years younger. His family can be indifferent to you too and may not accept you gladly.

You cannot defy nature. Changes in physical appearance can be more obvious as years go by. You cannot escape the natural aging process and older women naturally become wrinkled first when your younger man still looks very youthful. You may feel insecure with your aging appearance. But even if you look younger than your age, you cannot defy nature and undo your biological clock. You cannot escape the fact that you are older. If you are an older woman and past the childbearing age and dating a man 10 years younger, getting pregnant or having kids may not be easy or even possible. There is this fertility issue to consider when dating a much younger man because he may want to have his own kids in the future.

Although there are couples who later realized that the huge age gap is taking its toll on their relationship and the challenges are too much to handle affecting their relationship, there are couples who were able to conquer the age gap and make the relationship work despite the huge age gap. In the end, the decision is yours. We are free to follow our hearts and love whoever we want. And as long as we can make the relationship work, age is just a number.

How to Overcome Shyness Around Men

Is shyness getting the best of you when you are around men? If yes, then you are probably having problems in meeting and dating men as your shyness around men keeps interfering with your social and dating life.

Shy women are often inexperienced in dating men because their shyness cost them to end up dateless and loveless. A shy woman may be interested in a guy and wants to make a good impression but her shyness prevents her to do so. When a guy approached and talked to her, she’ll be terrified and can’t express herself that the guy eventually thinks she’s not interested. She may want to date a certain guy but end up saying “No” when asked due to nervousness being alone with a guy on a date.

In general, women are perceived as more socially competent so shy women can be mistaken as aloof, snobby, rude, anti-social, unfriendly or simply uninterested if they are unable to interact with the opposite sex in social situations. Men have no idea what these shy women are going through and didn’t consider the idea that they are just shy and their nerves are getting the best of them that they cannot interact with men. The worst thing is that shy women continue to suffer from this problem even until their 40s, the age when they should be enjoying a stable relationship or starting a family.

Shyness can take away one’s potential for a successful dating life. If you are one of these women, you have to know how to overcome shyness around men to boost your dating life. Here are some tips that can be very helpful.

Acknowledge that your shyness is a problem. It can be hard to overcome shyness if you will just accept that you are shy and that’s who you are but didn’t realize that it is a problem. It is important to recognize that your shyness around men is a problem that inhibits you from opportunities to meet the man who could be the one for you. If you know that shyness is a problem then you know that you have to do something to overcome it to have a successful dating life.

Start taking small steps to get out of your comfort zone. Shy women tend to stay in their comfort zone; that is to stay home and avoid social situations or interaction with people especially the opposite sex.  If you want to overcome shyness around men, you have to start taking small steps to go out of your comfort zone. Taking the first step is the hardest part if you want to change or do something so you have to make the decision to start taking small steps. Force yourself to say “Hi” to your neighbors and people you know when you see them around. Go out with your friends, make new friends and be more sociable. Talk to people more until you become more confident and comfortable around people including men of course. By taking small steps and getting out of your comfort zone, you’ll become more socially competent and you will eventually overcome shyness around men.

Know that men are humans too. If you are shy because you are scared to be rejected and ridiculed by the opposite sex, it is important to realize that like you, men are also humans. Men can be as shy as you are, they don’t bite and they are not usually mean. Although not all men are nice but men in general are nicer to the opposite sex. Women can be more mean and judgmental towards another woman compared to men.

Take care of yourself and improve your physical appearance. The way you look can affect the way you feel. Shyness can be a result of insecurity with your looks or from being unhappy with what you see in the mirror. Exert efforts to look your best. Know how to dress appropriately, choose a hairstyle that fits you, lose those unwanted pounds and stay fit, practice good hygiene and always appear fresh. But this is not about changing who you are or being someone you are not but this is about being the best version of yourself. If you like how you look, you’ll be more confident and motivated to overcome your shyness around men

View yourself in a positive way. Turn off those negative vibes and get rid of those negative opinions you have for yourself. Shyness towards the opposite sex may trigger if you always think that you will not meet someone because you are too shy, too boring or not good-looking enough. The thing is, every woman has her own beauty. Love yourself more, get rid of those negative thoughts and see yourself in a different light. If you feel good about yourself, you’ll be more confident around men.

Find something you are good at and be a more interesting person. Knowing that you are good at something can boost your confidence. If you have talent in cooking, arts or musically inclined, these things can help you gain more self-confidence and become more interesting because you have a lot to share. Even if there is nothing you are good at right now, there must be something you are passionate about and want to learn so pursue that passion and learn something new. It is easier to overcome shyness around men if you know you are an interesting person to be with.

Be patient and keep trying to overcome shyness around men. You cannot change overnight. Beating shyness is a difficult and long process so be patient and persevere. Sometimes it may feel like you’ve made one step forward but two steps backward.  Do not be discouraged, keep trying and keep going. You might fail, stumble and get hurt sometimes but if you keep trying you’ll eventually succeed and overcome shyness around men.

The Girl Guys Want to Date- What Women Should Know

When you find yourself dateless while other women are dating left and right, you will probably ask yourself “Why don’t guys want to date me?” Finding a date could be so easy for some girls but for you, it is not that easy. You cannot understand why you always end up dateless and don’t know how to escape from it. So who is the girl guys want to date? Here are some helpful tips to be the girl every man want to date.

The girl who takes care of her physical appearance. Although most people would agree that inner beauty is more important, you cannot disregard the fact that physical appearance matters, especially when making a lasting first impression. You don’t have to be a supermodel beauty to get the attention of men because there are many women who are not that beautiful but still enjoying the attention of men. Why? Because they know how to groom themselves. When was the last time you upgraded your hairstyle or your wardrobe? Choose a hairstyle that fits your face shape and your personality. Wear clothes that flatters your best physical features. But you have to remember that looking good does not mean you have to show more skin because you do not want to send a wrong message. You want to attract men but for sure you also want to be classy and respected. Dress appropriately and ask help from people who have a good sense for style and fashion. Although there are men who prefer women who are on the heavy side, haven’t you considered to at least shed some pounds and be fit not only for your looks but for your overall health? A healthy fit woman is more attractive. Practice good hygiene and always appear fresh. Upgrading your wardrobe and your physical appearance does not mean you are not being yourself but you are just making a better version of yourself. You don’t have to be perfect or flawless but the way you take care of yourself speaks a lot about you. Of course, the most important thing in improving your appearance is that you are comfortable with it and having fun with it. Take care of yourself and always look good if you want to be the girl guys want to date.

An independent and self-sufficient girl. Although it is romantic to think men as your shining armor, being too dependent will not work on your favor.  It can be unattractive for a woman to be always needy and dependent on the opposite sex. A woman who is self-sufficient and has a sense of independence is more attractive and are more likely to be asked for a date. A woman who do not have the tendency to be clingy and has the confidence that she can still live even without a man in her life tend to have greater value in the perspective of men. Of course being independent doesn’t mean you do not want men in your life but being independence makes you more attractive, valuable and challenging. Most men naturally would chase for someone he can’t easily have and value someone he knows he can lose at any moment.  Being independent and self-sufficient can help you be the girl guys want to date.

An interesting girl. Yes, you want to succeed in dating men and want to be the girl guys want to date but you can’t just sit there, depressed and do nothing while waiting for it to happen. Do what you love doing while waiting for that dating life of yours to flourish. Become a more interesting person. Go out regularly with your friends and family, create new friendships or expand your social network, create an active and healthy lifestyle, do something for the community and be a better citizen, make time for hobbies you enjoy, learn new things, acquire new skills and excel on your chosen career. An interesting woman can carry out any type of conversation with any person especially with the opposite sex because she has a lot to share and talk to about. If you continue to live a fulfilled life while waiting for your dating life to happen, chances are, this guy you are waiting for is just around the corner watching you and trying to figure out how to be part of your interesting life.

A girl who respects herself.  Men may find it hard to trust and respect a woman who would sleep with a guy right away. Behaving this way, may make you more of a hook-up than a date material. But a woman who makes a man work for what he wants and makes him feel that he won her, has his respect and admiration. The way you treat yourself is a clear indication on how you want to be treated and what kind of woman you are. Do you want to be the girl guys want to date? Respect yourself and you’ll earn the respect and admiration of others especially the opposite sex.

A girl who has a positive attitude.  This kind of woman is the girl guys want to date because she is jolly, positive and a joy to be around with. She’s happy and contented even if her life is not that perfect. She knows how to handle the imperfections in her life, does not carry bitterness and does not affect people around her negatively. A woman who avoids negativity and embraces a positive outlook and attitude is very attractive. Smile and infect people around you with your positive attitude if you want to be the girl guys want to date.
Attracting men is a skill that can be learned. Do you want to attract men?